Consciously Committed in 2018Lifestyle Raw Republic Wellness
Before the development of our New Year’s resolutions, we begin to feel inspired by new ideas and conjure up fresh commitments that are likely to fall through. Why does this cycle occur? The answer is simple, DISCOURAGEMENT creeps up in our way between the initial moment of inspiration and the end result.
Discouragement by definition is the act of making something less likely to happen or of making people less likely to do something; a feeling of having lost hope, confidence or enthusiasm; dispiritedness.
It is possible that there are people in our lives who intentionally or unintentionally discourage us, but it is up to us to stick with our original commitments. We have to remember that we only have control over how we show up in our relationships, at work, and even on the yoga mat.
After a thorough investigation, we can recognize that we are not just our negative and afflictive thoughts, emotions, and actions, rather, we are an extension of greatness. Instead of identifying with our negative patterns, it is important, and truly crucial for our growth, that we are able to hold space for our own necessary transformation.
“How do we do such a thing?” you ask… Well, before we transition into this new year, your wellness ambassadors at Raw Republic are here to offer some helpful insight as to how one can transmute discouragement and stick to those commitments.
- Be accountable for what is going on with you internally (discouragement tends to linger when we are unwilling to call/see experience for what it is.)
- We can only begin to deal with discouragement, when we acknowledge that it is there and that “causes and conditions” have come together they way they did, so we can tend to it and improve upon ourselves.
- See it as an opportunity to grow, as this ignites motivation. When we see it as something permanent out to get us and dwell on it, the opposite takes place. It can generate frustration and then anger, which later causes us to burn out and give up.
- Often people also do not acknowledge and address the issue because they fear that there would be consequences that they do not want to face; mostly in efforts to avoid initial pain. However, it is best to recognize and address the issue right away because avoiding only piles up more and more issues on top of it.
- Instead of defending our emotional blocks, we should uncover the root cause. Feelings of pride, fear of loss, attachment, lack of esteem etc. are all excuses which could make one feel unwilling to acknowledge the underlying root cause behind discouragement. We defend our blocks because releasing them can conjure pain, and it is often the case that we don’t want to look at or feel the pain.
- Remember that you only have control over yourself. From the standpoint of a lack mentality, it is easier to blame others for our discouragement and frustration because we don’t want to do the inner and outer work ourselves. We avoid it for the same reasons we hold on to our blocks.
- In Kabbalah class, we learned that the heart is an organ that is responsible for our desires and longing to have certain experiences. The liver kicks in when our desires are not fulfilled, in turn, it spills into frustration, which later can ignite into anger. Anger happens when we start validating and dwelling on the reasons that resulted in frustration, instead of pacifying them by acknowledging the root cause of the issue. Once the issues are acknowledged we must commit and engage in the efforts that will support our vision and connection to the source of our greatness.
“You cannot remedy anything by condemning it” – Wayne Dyer
- Once we acknowledge that we are discouraged, we can begin to create room to see what opportunity lies behind the veil. As we address the underlying root-cause, we are better equipt and prepared to begin fulfilling our greater purpose in life.
- At this point, begin to ask yourself “What is the root cause of my discouragement?”
- More prompts for self-inquiry: “What is this here to teach me?… What type of discouragement is it?… Am I discouraged because of the reluctance to shift internally, or I am not willing to change external circumstances?”
- If you are wondering how to differentiate between the need to adjust your internal or external landscape, take note. If you have applied corrective methods in thought, speech, and action to address the external circumstance and it has not shifted, it means you have to look deeper at what you are avoiding inside of yourself. Ask again and again what are you missing within oneself and stay open for answers until you have it; then see how the circumstance shifts. Sometimes it may mean you have to detach from your environment because it is completely out of your control and other times the environment will shift as you intended.
Commitment and Action
- Once we have assessed the root causes of our discouragement, then we need to make commitments. What are those commitments and what is the action plan to see them through?
- In what ways can you actively reward your dedication, devotion, allegiance, loyalty, faithfulness, and fidelity?
- Gain clarity on what you really want to feel. How do you want to feel when you reach these new levels of success? How do you want to feel when you wake up in the morning? Take the kids to school? Go out on that date?
- Break down big goals into micro-movements. Taking a look at your year at a glance, and then breaking down your ideas into bite-sized steps makes it easier to stick with your commitments.
- Reevaluate what you are truly committed to (what we truly want or our old patterns). Through this authentic recognition, we can release, renew, and re-inspire our dreams into action.
The New York Times reports that New Year’s resolutions often fail because they are set “based on what society is asking you to change” – not what we want to change ourselves.
“Nothing ever goes away until it teaches us what we need to know.” – Pema Chodron
- The purpose of more thorough analysis is to assure that we don’t have to re-learn a lesson over and over again by choosing wrong commitments, and/or not following through on the things that we have learned through the experience.
- Here is a fun way to analyze and follow up on your commitments… Make two plans: One with what “not to do”, otherwise what is it that does not work in achieving your dream. Then follow that up with another action plan with what “to do”. It is important to know what not to do before drawing our plan so we don’t add these obscurations to our list. Rather address them, recognize their root cause and allow them to dissolve.
- Another practical method of effective analysis: draw a vertical line down the center of a sheet of paper. At the top of the paper, write “Less of” on top of the left column, and “More of” on top of the right. Think of some key subject areas that you would like to improve upon in the upcoming year and utilize the data from the “More of” side to clarify your long-term goals.
- Authentically appreciate both lessons and rewards. When our chosen circumstances cause us to be discouraged, it is time to dig deeper and release that which is on the way of our full potential. When our chosen circumstances result in fulfilling our dream appreciate it with humbling joy, versus gloating for attention from others that only boasts our negative egoic patterns.
- Know that in all of these situations there is no judgment, rather, an opportunity to awaken to our full potential.
- Begin your days with gratitude: Instead of grabbing your phone or tending to another person, carve out at least 10 minutes that are dedicated to you. This can look like quiet meditation, or journaling to note a few things you are grateful for then you can even decide your prioritized tasks of the day. Give this gift of quiet time to yourself so you can remind yourself of your zone of genius. Starting fresh each morning and not being on someone else’s agenda creates the necessary space for success!
“Every challenge, every adversity, contains within it the seeds of opportunity and growth.” ― Roy Bennett